procrastination & perfectionism

As promised eKa Circle,

A few things to ponder if you suffer the p’s…procrastination and or perfectionism. Lets feel into them, what are they alerting us to?

Are you prone to the delay of a task, you know there is a project to start but you just keep putting it off? Are you delaying work that really needs to be done? You can pull that into anything really, even the 4 pillars of health (we will discuss these tonight in our unity consciousness meeting.) Please join us.

Maybe your one that starts something and then just never gets to finishing it? Perhaps there is a nagging voice in your mind but you lack the motivation to get things rolling. Feel into the hidden reasons why and you will set yourself free. The devil is in the details. The cycle of procrastination feeds the inner critic, it nags that you should and then comes down hard when you don’t! That in itself takes a lot of energy to process. The perfectionist knows how much energy it takes for not only this dialogue but the effort and time involved to finish and complete something perfectly; so fear of not attaining that often blocks one from starting- or finishing the project.

Procrastination is often the fear of being able to complete a task perfectly. Fear immobilizes and in that self judgement &/or assumption of what others may think -we may completely miss out on achieving what we were born to do. Sometimes it is fear of not meeting the goal because of internal feelings of guilt. Often it is due to not feeling worthy of the success that may come. More than often it is all subconscious programming for low self esteem. External programs that manipulate our inner dialogue.

The rigidity of this inner critic can also push others away that feel it, yet cannot quite put their finger on what they are feeling into. It is time to take the mask off! You are not even fooling self with this- trust me I am an expert at this hence the topic discussion! Perfectionism is the immobilizing fear of failure. Which leads to a third P -paralysis. Procrastination doesn’t always involve perfectionism though let’s have a look at a few other types that still procrastinate. It is no laughing matter but the truth is that many perfectionists do have a bit of a dark side. Unrealistic expectations form the core of perfectionism and when expectations are not met one can often feel angry- digging that up can take a little self reflection and release.

There are 6 types of procrastinators:

• the crisis maker
• defier
• perfectionist
• dreamer
• worrier
• overdoer

How to overcome procrastination:

Do something spontaneously and accept the imperfections that that bring. It could be as simple as not proofreading an email…just send it- be spontaneous. (I am really good at this now those that receive my texts and emails will testify!)

Start with a very small goal.

Try working at the bare minimum; get that done as quickly as you can. Tell yourself it doesn’t need to be perfect I am allowing space for improving organically.

This may sound interesting on first grasp as a concept- lower your standards! Maybe your standards are way above reality and you don’t even realise it…many are like this in relationships and they miss the beauty in another, looking for that elusive perfection. Start this with some small things first…wake up don’t make your bed, ladies go up the street without your hair and makeup done, make a video when you are not looking your best. The strange thing is that you will quickly realise that not too many notice your imperfection as they are also struggling in this same area with their own very loud inner critic. The ones that do notice your imperfections and feel the need to comment on them please ask yourself “do I really need you in my space during this growth period?” The sad thing is the loud ones don’t really like themselves. We are consciously trying to break free here not feed the beast of that inner critic. Choose your company very carefully, you do not have to come into agreement. There is so much freedom in realising that others do not really notice your imperfections as much as your inner critic does. Dust the cobwebs from your head. Fear no matter how it is packaged WILL hold you back from growth and freedom.

Allow another to help you in your weakness. This takes courage.

Sit with this for as long as it takes and set a challenge to do just ONE thing each day imperfectly. Love yourself for the bravery this takes. You may quickly notice that others are attracted to the authenticity of imperfection; then you will then give others unspoken permission to sit in their own authenticity too. Mask off you might realise just how truly magnificent you really are and silence that inner critic once and for all.

Just do it 😉

love & light

M + E

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